Every year in Britain people spend £4.5 billion on alternative therapies to tune up their bodies – from gym to acupuncture, meditation to colonic irrigation. So why is it an unspoken taboo about going to see a counsellor to tune up your mind?
People seem to think that seeing a counsellor is a sign of weakness instead of being one of the most valuable things you can do to improve your long-term health and happiness.
All the top sports people use sports psychologists to ensure peak performance, Imagine if the things in life that stress you didn’t catch you unaware but instead you saw them coming early and swatted them away like Ricky Ponting to a bouncer.
I see a counsellor to make me stronger. I wasn’t dropped on my head as a child, nor do I have any serious mental health issues. I go to learn more about myself and it’s made the world of difference to my life. It’s the best time and money I’ve ever spent. Talking to a professional with no personal ties to you is liberating. Don’t feel scared, don’t say it’s too expensive, don’t feel it’s for the weak: counselling is for everyone.
Andre. A former client’s letter published in TNT magazine.
So here you are! Your life experience/journey has brought you to Amanda’s website & this section in particular – don’t rush away – you’ve come this far for good reason. When I arrived here a few years ago I was like a “duck on a pond” – appearing calm and serene on the surface but paddling like mad beneath the water where all was in turmoil. My experiences felt too difficult to think about, let alone speak out to a stranger – a huge ball of tightly wound string, with so many ends, that I didn’t know where to start. Then there was the terror of it all unravelling in an uncontrollable mess, if I were to try to sort things out. At the same time, the ball of string was tightening, squeezing the life out of me, slow strangulation, affecting my health & well being, my relationships & ability to live & love or even like myself.
Sound familiar? If you choose to work with Amanda and I hope you do, I cannot promise you an easy journey but I can promise that it will take you to a better place than where you are now. And you won’t have to carry this alone any more. Amanda will bear witness to your pain & grief & anger in a way most suited to you. She will gently help you to unravel the string and peer into all the dark corners where you’ve been too scared to look. There is nothing you will say that will shock her or that, sadly, she will not have heard before. You’ll learn how to face your past self, perhaps your younger self and will understand the guilt you probably, unjustly, feel at present. You will learn to forgive yourself and start to heal. You will, I hope, begin to understand that you are a survivor and whatever your future holds you will face it with a sense of empowerment, like you only ever dreamed of being possible.
Please don’t delay, the pain won’t go away and will only get worse and more complicated. If you had a severe physical pain you would see a doctor, not apply a sticking plaster, so why not see a Psycho – therapist who specialises in healing our type of pain? This next step will take you one step closer to making changes you will not regret. I am constantly amazed at the “spin-offs” from having been in therapy. Amanda gave me the tools to care for myself & to define my own life going forward and I have re-discovered strengths & characteristics I’d long forgotten. Please allow her to help you, as she has helped me & many others like us. Remember, you don’t have to be alone with this.
C. A former client who writes about her experience of therapy for early years abuse.