Executive Coaching With Psychotherapy for When You are Being Undermined or Bullied in the Workplace
Being undermined, bullied or harassed at work can be very destructive and affect you professionally, emotionally and socially – frequently leading to anxiety and health problems. You may only fully recognise the impact on your confidence and self-belief when when you are no longer in receipt of that behaviour. I bring a psychotherapy approach into the Executive Coaching for Bullying sessions to support you emotionally while we use the coaching to develop ways to mange and resolve the bullying, if it is current or address what has happened in the past.
Undermining behavior in the workplace can render you too confused and sometimes ashamed to disclose, so you may feel isolated with it. Commonly, undermining and bullying behaviour has an intrinsic reliance on silence and secrecy, so the very notion of seeking support and being willing to discuss your concerns is the first step to taking your power back.
Despite all that we know about positive and healthy managerial styles and collegiate behaviour:
Sincerity; authenticity; empathy; warmth; a positive attitude; accountability; patience; emotional intelligence and compassion…
…regretfully, it is not unusual in the workplace to meet people who are:
Arrogant; aggressive; controlling; narcissistic; supercilious; point-scoring; gossiping and who will harass you in a variety of ways – for example sexually or with regard to your age, disability, gender reassignment, marriage and civil partnership, race, religion or belief, sex or sexual orientation – areas protected in employment law.
Any group may have members who feel the need to assert themselves. However, a group of high-achievers may have more than its fair share of people with an over-inflated sense of entitlement. These people tend, because of their self-interest, to do very well professionally but sometimes their behaviour can be toxic.
Executive Coaching for Bullying and Undermining Behaviour: How I Can Help
If you are currently being bullied, harassed or undermined our initial task is to ensure that it stops. Using an integrated approach of coaching and psychotherapy, we would discuss the steps to be taken. At the same time we would address any anxiety and other emotional distress that has been caused. Having a supportive companion through this process can make a huge difference.
Then, whether the situation is ongoing or in the past, we would work to unravel and make sense of the relationship or company culture that has left you feeling confused and undermined. We would then move to re-establishing your confidence and belief in yourself and trust in others to ensure that this doesn’t happen to you again.
Increasing attention is being placed on the impact of workplace bullying as research indicates that 33.5 million working days are lost each year in the UK due to bullying related absenteeism. This behaviour not only affects the recipient but also the people witnessing it and clearly, the reputational and financial risk for a company can be significant should you choose to take a case.
Executive Coaching with Psychotherapy If You Have Been Accused of Bullying Someone at Work
If it has been pointed out to you that you have character traits mentioned above or if you are an HR professional seeking support, please do contact me to discuss how we might work together. It is certainly possible – with a combination of coaching and psychotherapy – to support someone to better understand their own behaviour and to be coached in how to be a more considerate and respectful professional.
Please note that I do not offer legal advice.